It’s not the goodbyes that hurt, but the flashbacks that follow
We human beings are known as rare species. We go through many peaks and troughs; we sometimes cherish a moment and sometimes blame it if it doesn't meet our expectations. Many things stay with us for a very long time or maybe for a lifetime.
It can be an incident, a story, a saying, a song whose melody lingers on even after the song ends, and many other things as well. It simply gets stuck in our subconscious mind on auto-mode, and once it gets into our subconscious mind, it gets glued for a lifetime.
But sometimes, we get them stuck in our mind consciously because we think that this is the way to keep ourselves delighted; but trust me, IT IS NOT!!! NOT EVERY TIME.
The quote "It's not the goodbye that hurts, but the flashbacks that follow" is certainly working as one for me, which got stuck in my mind, but I am not sure whether it got stuck consciously or subconsciously in my mind? Although I had read this quote once or twice before, could apprehend it only after watching the movie 'Kabir Singh'.
There is a scene in the movie Kabir Singh where Shahid Kapoor's father gives him a practical life lesson by saying the above-stated quote. There was nothing extraordinary about that scene; it was simple, yet that scene just took my heart away in a sweet way.
Why does it seem so easy to say hello to someone but it takes away our entire world sometimes when it comes to saying goodbye to someone (that special one)? It's not that nobody loves goodbyes; it all depends on who you are saying goodbye to; if that person is really very close to your heart, it seems like a painful one. Because sometimes, goodbyes can be a feeling that comes right from your deepest conscience.
"Sometimes, goodbyes can be like a feeling, a feeling of never-ending rapture, sometimes it can be like a beautiful thought you get at a certain point of time, but when you decide to pen it down, it just vanishes in the air, and then you are left with nothing but just lost for words or maybe dazed".
"And sometimes, goodbyes can be like a mosaic rainbow, you see it not only from your eyes, but also from your heart's eyes, and feel it deeply. At the very same time, you know it will not be there after a while, but still, you do not want it to disappear, yet in the next blink, it just disappears without letting you know".
"Sometimes we never think that we all would see the day where we have to say goodbye to that one person, we never think that day will apparently come where those memories we built together will no longer be built. Sometimes we never think that it is not the goodbye that hurts; it is always the flashbacks, those memories that follow".
In a study, it is explained that most time, goodbyes are less painful than flashbacks. That is why when goodbyes come to an end, we try to hold on as much as we can, because sometimes life brings us loads of memories and blesses us to live those memories like a dream, and once those memories become special like we never thought of becoming, we just don't want them to end.
But goodbyes often come as surprises to most of us, and at that very time we do not know how to react or how to take it; but as time passes, we all learn how to live with it even if we don't want to, we have to.
So try to make every year, every month, every day, every hour, every minute, every goddamn second worthy enough to not regret thereafter. Do not deliberately try to make every moment special, just live in the moment to the fullest as much as you can, give your hundred percent and make those moments special by not actually trying to make them special. Just say and do whatever is in your mind, admit it to the other person with whom you feel things, and you feel happy in a way you never thought of feeling.
Because we human beings are really very bizarre creatures, we forget to tell so many things to someone or maybe do not tell them knowingly; and when that person goes far away from us, we regret the things which we should have said to them despite any consequences.
We all know that life doesn't stop. It is always moving, whether you want it to or not, whether you like it or not. Sometimes, it can hurt you; sometimes, it can make you happy, and sometimes goodbyes do hurt and sometimes they don't. But if it ever hurts you, remember the hurt, because sometimes hurt is all you need to recover from the earlier hurt, and that too, in the right manner.
And yes, flashbacks do follow us but there comes a time in your life when you realize that turning the page rather than being on the same page is the best feeling in the world because you realize that there is so much more to the book than the page you are stuck on because being on the same page will never help you to finish the book and unravel the whole story.
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ReplyDeleteThank you for such a fabulous narration...
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ReplyDeleteJust want to say, Thank you for putting my soul into words.
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